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| Publishing Frequency - Twice monthly, usually around the 1st and the 15th | September 1 , 2010 | Vol.#7 Issue#16 |
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"Men have forgotten this truth," said the fox. "But you must not forget it. You become responsible, forever, for what you have tamed." Antoine
de Saint Exupery
What
if...
NOW!
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The Distance Between You and I A funny thing happens when people start talking about their personal emotional experiences. Suddenly it's no longer about them. It's about you. This article was first published in 2008, and it seems to be timely that it be sent out again.
Notice anything out of sync in the above examples of dialog? Here's a hint: they start out in first person but suddenly take a left turn and become second person. In case you've forgotten everything you ever were taught in high school about the structure of the English language, first person singular is "I" or "me" and second person is "you". But proper English isn't the issue here. Distancing, displacement, and dissociation are the issues. You see, when you're talking in first person, you're mentally and emotionally associated with what you're saying. You experience it first hand. When you talk in second person you become dissociated and distanced from the subject. It becomes someone else's experience. Most often this switcharoo occurs when the subject turns from being factual to being emotional for the speaker. This happens most often when the emotions are being brought from the past to the present. In an effort to dissociate and, thus, save themselves from the possibility of experiencing uncomfortable feelings, people often switch into second person so quickly and slickly that no one - including them - notices. This robs the speaker of their complete experience and blocks the opportunity for them to gain new insights, perspectives, awareness, and knowledge about how the issue is affecting them... and what they might learn from it. Clarity of language produces clarity of thought. Give yourself the gift of wholly experiencing your life. The next time you find yourself speaking in second person when you're truly talking about yourself, stop. Start over again and consciously talk about it in first person. You'll be amazed at the difference of your experience. Ask yourself:
Love, Feeling Stuck?
You feel unable to move forward no matter what you do. Unable to see a way out. You know that something's not right because your Emotional Guidance System is giving you puh-lenty of warnings. You may be feeling stifled, depressed, angry, resentful, confused, or just plain gritchy. Maybe you feel all of these and more. These feelings are blinking red warning lights that it's time for you to get out of your quagmire and begin moving again... this time in a new direction.
In my life coaching practice, I specialize in helping my clients get their life unstuck so they can move forward and create the great life they desire... and deserve. What I do and how I coach There are many subtleties and nuances within the practice of life coaching and it would take days to discuss all of them. Here are what I believe to be the most important aspects of life coaching and which comprise most of what I do:
Always, within our coaching relationship you are supported in a safe, confidential, and nonjudgmental environment. Typically we will have an hour coaching session weekly or biweekly by phone. I require no contract or long-term agreement. Some of my clients have gotten what they wanted within just a few sessions. Some have continued on for several years. Some pop in and out as they feel the need.
Free
your mind... Two important factoids about how your mind works:
While you may be unaware of their influence on you, your beliefs direct your actions, choices, and behaviors. Your subconscious beliefs create the filters through which you respond to life's challenges. Your subconscious beliefs establish the limits of what you can achieve.
Rescripting subconscious limiting beliefs is like reprogramming a computer. Using PSYCH-K® techniques, we use kinesiology or muscle testing. This is is similar to using a computer keyboard to communicate with your brain. During a PSYCH-K® session both hemispheres of the brain are included in the reprogramming to maximize your full potential.
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